A True Relationship (my opinion) -Written By: Mike

I think today in American relationships are just a joke. People date around until they "find the right one" (or the one they settle for below par). Of course you have to give it your all in every relationship so you gotta have sex according to societies standards, you have to engage in all of the customary interactions if you are dating, pointless caressing, over the top clinging and of course stupid silly flirtatious personalities.

I think that if you just get busy with your life, focus on self improvement, don't distract yourself with pointless social interactions "oh let's go to a party and get wasted yeah that sounds awesome..." and just do what you are supposed to do you will find all of the right people in the right timing.

You shouldn't have to pursue people, or cater your personality to be silly etc. You will find the true friends when you find people working to the same goal, significant other included. Why waste your time going out of your way and stealing your time for pointless pursuits of a serious relationship. Just wait and you will find the right one and it will require no effort for you to be happy together.

“Realization” -Written By: Mike

Realization Vote Democrat. Vote Republican. Get a fancy car and a big house. Live the American dream. Get a boat. Strive to be rich. Drink beer. Do drugs. Sex sex sex and more sex.

Watch porn, it's adult entertainment. Vote. Your opinion matters. Get this new fancy cell phone that does more things that you could ever need. Go to movies. Have a lot of meaningless relationships. Get health insurance. Buy car insurance. Buy health insurance.

Go to Hawaii for vacation. You deserve a vacation. You just have to have these fancy clothes. Redo your kitchen. No, redo your whole house. Get money. No get more money. I need more money. I have to have more money. Watch your empty humor on comedy central. Listen to a pathetic excuse for music called rap. The more simple minded the better. Listen to Lady Gaga. Envy famous peoples lives. Get a hobby. Go to the tanning bed, no one likes people that aren't tan. Go to the super bowl. Have a favorite sports team. Watch the news on how corrupt the world is. Get angry when you don't get what you want. Argue over insignificant things.

Buy this wonderful makeup. You have to have this jewelry. You only have 10 pairs of shoes? You just have to have 10 more. You need this 100in flat screen TV. Don't pass up this million dollar car. Have a favorite team. Get a lake house. Get everything you can.

Americans...what is it with you people. You are so distracted and so blind to see the big picture. We are like sheep, dumb, that can only see in 1 direction. We are so blind trying to fulfill all of your simple desires. We are had. We are under the thumb of corruption and greed but we are too obsessed with that shiny toy or ring that we just have to have. We are blinded by politics, they are vile greedy pigs that run this country.

They do not care about you or me they just want the green paper to shove in their pockets, they want power and control. They want you to stay blinded by the stereotypical "American dream" so they can continue to have their way. Go to the super bowl. They love your silly motives blind you so we can have more money more power. They continue to portray this on the television , the media or any way they can. They want you distracted by life, they are leading you where ever they want you to go and we are too blind.

“A LETTER FOR YOU” -Written By:Ruth

Over the past few years I have kept a collection of letters that I have written to my future husband..Ones that I will give to him after our wedding..It’s been a great way for me to express myself when lonely..and my loneliness reaching it’s peak I decided to take my most recent one from the box and post it…It’s cheesy, it’s simple, but it’s me.

Dearest,
Another day without you here..It only gets more and more exciting..thinking of our future together..It’s almost here..but yet it’s still so far away..Every morning I wake up, look to my side, and think of you…and how you’ll fill that empty space someday..In a way it’s almost a joy to spend it alone..thinking of you…instead of with a “lover” of the moment…Just know I’ll be thinking of you..and the joy we’ll spend together…I can’t wait..to see your face..to tell you everything that’s on my mind..and show you how I’m here..for you…and only you. I’m savin’ everything I can..I pray you are too

This letter is dedicated to you..I hope you’re thinking of me
“I can’t see down the road..but it don’t matter..as long as I Got You”

The True Beauty -Ruth's

“Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty.You should be known for the beauty that comes from within,the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,which is so precious to God.”

I Peter 3:3,4 (NLT)
… “beauty is not something that you put on.
… It is not something tight fitting. It is in the heart.”

RESPECT-the most important thing he has to have. -Written By:Ruth

RESPECT-the most important thing he has to have.... Reminder to all the Girls like me,

Girls, I cannot stress this enough: IF YOU AREN’T BEING TREATED RIGHT BY A GUY, DON’T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHANGE. AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU WITH UTTER RESPECTSomeone who will honor your morals.Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest.Someone who will stop what theyre doing just to look you in theeyes….and say “i love you” …….AND ACTUALLY MEAN IT.Give the nice guys a chance.:)

"Why Waiting Means Trusting Him"... Written By:Ruth

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding...In all your ways acknowledge him and HE will direct your path...(Proverbs 3:6)

One of the hardest thing to do it to wait and be patient. Life is so complicated and all we want is to get the things we desire in an instant just like a "microwaving a popcorn in minutes". Patience. It’s a tough word to swallow. Christians everywhere jokingly warn each other, “Don’t pray for patience! You’ll get it!” And we’ve all heard the joke,” I prayed for patience but I’m just not getting it fast enough!” Funny or not, it’s true that we are all impatient by nature. I'm learning this more and more as i go through my journey in Life.

Honestly, there's just so many questions i've been asking and praying before God for a long time, that until now He doesn't even seem to care about it. I’d like to think that I'm a decently patient person. I get anxious about things, of course, but overall, I understand that "good things come to those who wait" and that usually, the end result is well worth the time spent. Why is patience so hard for us? Why do we want what we want, right when we want it? Why can’t we be content to sit back and trust the Lord’s timing over our own anxiety and urgency?

I believe it all goes back to control. Having patience means surrendering control of our lives to Jesus, the ultimate Timekeeper. It means saying “I’ll wait for You, Lord, because I trust You.” And that’s hard to do. It’s difficult not knowing what will happen. We live in a world that operates by plans, lists, details, and organization. How can we plan or make a list or organize if we don’t know what’s coming? If we don’t know what to expect?

It’s simple: we can’t. That’s where trust comes in. And you can’t have trust without first surrendering control.

Let go? Let Jesus truly take full control of my life? But what if His plans don’t match up with mine? What if He doesn’t want the same things for me that I’ve desired my entire life? How can I trust that? How can I know He won’t lead me astray?

Good questions. And I realized something recently while thinking about this dreaded little word "wait". A vivid image popped into my mind that I’d like to share with you.

Have you ever been blindfolded? Silly exercises on the surface, but deep down, they taught us how to build trust and become better teammates. The entire point was to learn to trust my teammate's voice and instructions. If he said "go right", I moved to the right. If he said “turn around”, I’d take baby steps or giant steps according to his commands. I did whatever it took to get through the obstacle without seeing. I literally had to blindly trust my partner, who saw the whole picture.It's a lot like that in our spiritual lives.

We, as Christians, are blindfolded. We can't see the entire picture. Our view is limited, and we're stumbling around, confused as to which direction we should go. And unfortunately, more often than not, we tend to ignore the voice of our Lord instructing us to safety. To success. To fulfillment.

How will we ever know where to go, or worse yet, where not to go, if we don't listen to Him? We'll never cross the finish line by stubbornly insisting we can manage on our own. God sees the entire path before us. He knows what's coming, what has been, what is, and still has a plan for each one of us. As Christians, we have to trust that. Whether that means waiting, walking, crawling, taking baby steps, running, etc.
Are you listening to the voice of our Savior today? I am. I'm going to keep waiting and keep trusting. And when I hear that still small voice instructing me to walk, I'll do so boldly and with confidence that I am on the right path.

It will be worth the wait.

(inspired to write, after reading devotional site crosswalk.com)Read more: http://www.myspace.com/446837639/blog#ixzz0xGC3iB1A

Waiting For God's Best...Ruth's

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.But to His child, the Lord says: "No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by Me; with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me to have an intensely personal relationship with Me alone, discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found.Only then will you be capable of the most perfect relationship that I have planned for you.
"I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing… one that you cannot imagine (Proverbs 3:5-6).I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you.

"You just keep watching Me. Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am. Keep listening and learning the things that I tell you. Just waiting-that's all."Don't be anxious. Don't worry. Don't look around at all the things others have gotten or that I have given them. Don't look at all the things you think you want. Just keep looking up to Me."And then, when I know you are ready, I'll surprise you with a love far wonderful than any you would dream of.

You see, I'm working at this moment to have you both ready at the same time. Until you are satisfied exclusively with Me, and the life I've given you, you won't be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me."Dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love, I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer you with myself. "Know that I love you utterly. Be satisfied in Me."-

Your Dad, GOD

Purpose in Existence -Written By Mike

There is one thing that the human mind will never understand,at least it eludes me, that is purpose in existence. No matter how you look at existing, from a human perspective, there i no purpose what so ever.

Humans see purpose in items such as a car to go to work, a job to make money, money to buy food etc. All of the purposeful items do have some function but in the big picture it is just a never ending provision of purpose to something else. Take a step back though. Purpose in human perspective is that purpose is something that does some function, car to drive to work, dishes to eat etc. What about existence though? Our existence is completely purposeless from that stand point. We will fulfill no function by existing. Even if there was a purpose we would want to know what the purpose of that purpose was or at least I would. So purpose is actually a man made concept just like time. Time does not exist, it is simply a measurement to make life more convenient. Life would be chaotic with out it and impossible to plan things.

So your Life Sucks??? -Wirtten by: Ruth

I was feeling kind of “BLAH” for the past week after all the hassle and bustle of the toxic exams. So yesterday, I decided to treat myself with some delicious chick-fil-A (Didn’t mean to endorse though, but it’s really good). And it’s been a while since I last had one…Inside the fast food house, a seemingly exhausted public truck driver entered the door, which caught my attention. He was a big guy, with his forehead and face frowned, playing with his keys and a stick of cigarette, he went immediately in front of the line adjacent to my table.While waiting for his order, he says in a moderately-sarcastic toned voice: “Eat, drive, eat… then drive again! OH THIS LIFE SUCKS!!!The food almost burst out from my mouth. I could not help myself to smile and utterly nod on what I’ve just heard. I was thinking at the back of my head; “Poor driver, this man definitely needs a break”.But on my way home, as the ambiance of lights we’re flashing from the road of 301, and silence taking place. His words suddenly lingered in my head once more…..I realized that there is truth beyond the humor of his complaining statement.Many times we feel Fed up with life and we are all trapped.Sometimes we feel we are stuck being who we are. We struggle to change ourselves, but the result has so little effect. We can change what we do, but sometimes we cannot change who we are.Or think about just how we live every day,It’s basically the “same old same” isn’t it? You wake up in the morning, eat, school, work, some other things then sleep. And the next day will repeat the same thing all over again. Although this cycle is actually for those “fortunate people”. Others have a routine that’s “purely labor” day and night and a little or no sleep at all. Just like the truck driver I’ve mentioned earlier.Worse, is when we feel sick and tired of this “rat race”. You struggle with all these problems year after year, and you're getting nowhere, and you wonder if anything will ever change. And the unavoidable reality of it all is that, for you, Life sucks.The point I want to make is that if you think you’re stuck in this cycle forever, and that your life is not changing, Well you got it all wrong.The only constant in life is CHANGE. It’s true that our lives are one big cycle with a beginning and endpoint. We are on the journey of endless change. Or what we called the journey of life.Life is one huge roller coaster with many ups, downs, hoops and loops.The ups of life, which are those moments of peak happiness, are great and amazing moments. They come inevitably or unexpected and can rarely be forced. I’ve had some days and moments of peak happiness where I can say were the best and unforgettable moments of my life.On the flipside I’ve also had moments where I felt extremely exhausted bad and just wished the ground would open up underneath me and swallow me up. Those are the downs of life and they also come inevitable and unexpectedly out of the blue.Take the analogy of life being a journey in an off road vehicle. You don’t know where you are going but you head off in a direction and keep going. Sometimes the road will be perfectly smooth and visible, other times there will be bumps and humps along the road, and you hardly see anything. There will be times when you have a dead-end and need to reverse because otherwise you will drive off a cliff and cause accident. Like wise, according to an inspiring quotation written by Bob Moawd he states that:
The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is yourown. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The giftis yours it is an amazing journey and you alone are responsible forthe quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
Sometimes you will make huge progress in short period of time and sometimes youwill take ages to achieve what very little simple things that matter. Don’t get frustrated when you don’t make progress or when the ride is bumpy and rough, it’s all part of the journey. Embrace it with acceptance and keep moving on.
We are all human and it is good to feel for something we care about.-OUR OWN LIVES.
But, what we don’t realize is that-LIFE IS ALL ABOUT YOU, and how you treat it.
If you criticize it, you are actually criticizing yourself. You like it, you hate it? Well it’s all up to you.
So be careful how you describe it.

Problems with Christians and Christianity -Written By Mike

Why is it that Christianity is one of the most criticized and rebuked "religions" out there? I think it comes down to 2 simple main points that we are contributing to our own downfall.

1. First of all, why is it that Christians are so hypocritical? Sure they will sit in church every Sunday, even go to Sunday school, and throw those corny and pointless (I think they are completely fake and just for show) amens in the middle of a sermon. Yet after all of this they are so quick to cut someone else down instead of lift them up, and when you try to point it out to them they say soemthing like "but they really are messed up" or soemthing liek that. So what...everyone has their problems. It makes me so angry to hear "Christians" talking about people behind their back and tearing them down...Don't think I am trying to prach I am guilty of this too. Where is the love? "I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians.

Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."-- Mahatma Gandhi . There is our prolem, Christians are fake and to concerned with personal gain and they try so hard ot see jsuth ow close to the world they can be with out actually crossing the line. If christians would live like Christians are actually supposed to inagine the turn around that the churches would have. People wouldn't et run off from churches etc. and poeple would jsut care for other people in general.

2. Why is it that churches focus on getting high attendance? I think that is the wrong focus(not htat I am against inviting people to church). I know they say "well the more people that hear the gospel the better" although I am not agaisnt spreading it, I think we need to refocus. First of all someone isn not oging to accept a belief system that so many people attack and have all of the "theories" against it "proving it wrong". Christians need to step up and defend themselves and their beliefs. If Christianity could end all of the rediculous agruments against it, I bet it would be one of the fastest growing "religions", well that and end all of the hypocrisy. I don't think I am perfect or anywhere close by anymeans, these are just observations I have made.

So maybe if we could end all of the hypocrosy and instead of spending all of our time just preaching the Bible and actually apply it to our lives and live by it things would be different. It kills me when people makes excuses for what they do. We need ot tkae responsibility for our actions instead of making excuses. CHristians need ot wake up and stop screwing around, if we are going to say we follow Christ then act like it.

God is mean? -Written by: Mike

Why do people say God is some terrible being, if he exist? They always say why would such a great and loving God create sickness, suffering, death and pain. I have been thinking about this for the past few weeks and I think I have come up with a interesting point of view. So, why would an all loving God put so much suffering in the world? I think it comes down to 2 things. First of all in the beginning, in the garden of eden, everything was perfect. No sin had mared creation, except Satan rebelling against God, but the earth was perfect. So initially there was no pain no suffering and disease. It happened when man chose to sin and eat of the tree of knowlefge of good and evil. In that instant, their eyes were open to what sin was, they believed the serpents deception and went against God's commanment not to eat the fruit. So God did what he promised, he cursed man, the earth and the serpent. The man would always have to work and labor for food, it would no longer be just in reaching distance. Woman would have extreame pain in child birth and also disease and other forms of suffering would be caused. Lastly, the serpant was cursed to crawl on its belly(which explains the legs that snakes have that evloutionst want to say is proof of evolution. Evolution is just ignorance but that is a different subject) So God didn't jsut all of the sudden decide to be the bully with the magnafine glass and make us ants, he jsut fufilled a promise. He said they would surely die if they ate from the tree.

Another interesting idea to consider: If everything was perfect, and adam and eve could not sin, would we truely have free will? If all you knew was goodness and perfection would you really be able to have freewill? IAs soon as Adam and Eve were banished from the garden I think the whole situation changed in a sense of freewill. Even though life seemed bad with deisease and suffering they would have to choose to have fait in God and believe in Him or you could choose to be like alot of peopel and say "God is not a loving God, He is hateful and created all of the bad stuff in the world". God didn't create sin, he just gave us freewill and we chose sin. You can tell how well we are doing with it too. People are sinful and the lack of morals in nowdays society disgust me. We got what God promised would happen. People need to stop being harsh and bitter about disease, I know it is terrible and causes alot of physical and emotional pain but you have to realize that it is part of life and I believe it comes with having freewill.

Self Improvement -Written by: Mike

Self improvement is something one should seek daily. Always analyze yourself and who you are, your faults and your attributes. Never be satisfied with where you are standing at in life, if you are not moving forward you are going back. You should dwell on your motives, what drives you, why you do the things you do, ask yourself are you where you need to be in life. Are you who you need to be and to me most importantly focus on your flaws. I do not believe we will ever reach a point where we can say we are what we need to be but that it is a continual process of self betterment. At least try to improve one aspect of yourself ever day and you will be on the path of becoming a complete person.

It makes you have a subject...-Written By: Mike

Live life to the fullest, take everything in. If you spend your whole life to afraid to do something, what have you accomplished? You can't say what if this happens or what if that happens. You just have to do it and learn from experience and move on. Yeah, you might end up regretting a few things along the way but at least you are learning from them. You are moving forward. You can't let fear hold you back, if you spend your whole life saying to your self "What if someone thinks this of me", "What is someone thinks that of me" or "what if I mess up"...Who cares what they think and even if you do mess up, get up dust yourself off and keep going. If you don't have confidence in yourself you are cheating you out of too much. I think I would rather live with regret about a few mistakes that I did make and learn from them instead of always thinking..."I should have done this", "Why didn't I at least try that"Read more: http://www.myspace.com/skootdizzle/blog#ixzz0xG8O0FcD

“Hello and Goodbye"...

I hate to say this.

But Life truly is a series of “Hellos and Goodbyes”...

As much as I want to, the time has finally come to an end. I would have to accept the truth that I’m now signing off from writing in my weekly nurtured blog “Rid me of myself”.

Thank you so much to everyone who joined me in my spiritual journey of awareness and detachment. This short period of conscious effort and understanding helped me to express myself, bare my soul and deepest thoughts. Thank you for spending your free time to read my posts, especially to some people whom I noticed not only consistently reading but giving comments, feedback and criticisms.

I am very open to your constructive feedback and I have also learned a lot from those of you who shared their personal experiences through the little box below, it is short, but sweet. So it is greatly appreciated. Our simple exchange of ideas challenged me and helped me grow personally.

So since this will be my last blog post, I would not leave you with just pure drama.lol

But rather, I’d you to ask you something to think about….

“How Do you want to be remembered?”

I’m pretty sure you are familiar with a question similar to this: “What legacy are you going to leave behind?” I have noticed, that there are a lot of people who are concerned about leaving a legacy. But what we don’t realize however is that most of us are soon forgotten. Once we pass on, life simply goes on...

I remember the quotation, I’ve read before which I will never forget:

They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. - Carl W. Buechner

In this Life, It’s the simple and small things that mean a lot to other people. Let’s face it, not all of us were brought here to do something so grand that millions of people will remember us, rather than the people we do meet each and every day are touched by us in how we word things, our feelings and how we go about living our lives. To that one person who may be feeling down or out, your words could make them feel “grand”….it’s like a domino effect…

One of the small things I do is send a birthday card to special people, not just family. Often times, they will call to say that that one little gesture lifted them up and made them happy. I want to leave this earth knowing I made people happy and that I did make a difference in at least a few people’s lives…….

To live our lives by example is the best measure of showing others that we can have peace and we can obtain goals on a day by day basis. To me, the important things is to live in the here and now and make the most of it. Focus on your goals, one day at a time. And be kind to yourself even if you fall short. So what? After all,

Tomorrow is another day, and there are bound to be new opportunities.

Go with the flow without worries or regrets. Time and age are relative anyway. Labels are illusions to be lost.Thus, the important thing is to keep the spirit alive and well and kicking. Every moment you live can be a glorious one, no matter your age or level of income, etc. Some of our most revered figures have lived less than stellar lives.

We know of very attractive people like Elvis Presley, Marilyn Monroe, John Lennon and Michael Jackson and so many others who passed away “under mysterious circumstances.”
Money and fame make the world go round, but the happiest people in the world live in obscure and remote places.

The quality of how you are remembered is the direct effect on what you do during your life and how you impact the people you deal with. If your impact is negative, sad as it seems, I believe you will be remembered that way. If your impact is positive, again I believe you will be remembered that way.

This "Goodbye" is not the end of my journey towards self improvement and productivity. This is just the start of a new adventure. and what is it?

Well i dont know, that is what im going to findout on my own...Im going to let go of the rope for now, and let the winds take me wherever my destination is.

Remember that:

The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.”

-Don Williams Jr

Cheers to your life. Keep on smiling!

Till Then, Im now signing Off..Peace!:)

Oops... I Might Be Wrong!

Have you ever had the experience in your life wherein you found yourself getting upset over someone else’s decisions?

Well, Honestly I do-Many Times. The reason I would get upset is because the person making the decision was not making the decision that I would have made (which I think is right),or I get annoyed and pissed off when they don’t listen to what I have to say.

When a person would not listen to my “common sense” I get myself worked up over the other person’s lack of desire to listen to what I had to offer. I was convinced that my life experiences were valuable and should be listened to because I could save another person whenever down the road, I foresaw hardship, and hurtful situations that they might face.

I thought I was being selfless. But when I come to think of it, I realize that I was so selfish.

Although with all honesty i can say that in some way i' m simply looking for the person's best interest. However on the other side, i know that im just "minding other person’s business" because I like the feeling of being in control, and enjoyed being right.

One interesting to remember though, is that almost all the time in these circumstances the other person’s decision does not have anything to do with me. In other words, their choices were simply NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

We often make mistakes when we are wrong, but the greatest mistakes are made when we are sure that we are right.

It is sad, but true, that so many relationships, friendships and families are teared apart due to one person assuming that they are right. It is important to know that we don’t know what the experience is like for another person unless we ask them and put ourselves into their shoes. It is dangerous for us to assume that everyone will have the same experience, Because everybody has a story to tell.

See, what is true for one is not always true for another.

Often times we create a barrier in our relationships by not taking the time to appreciate the experience of others. People will ignore our advices and go for their chosen direction. But what we have to realize is that They need to learn the lessons themselves, that there are times we find out that going against our advices was the best decision they could ever made.

I have experienced both situations in my life. I chose not to listen and made the decision that I want, and learned the lesson that they have warned me of. Yet, I have also gone against their advices, that turned out to be a very positive thing for me.

Let’s face it, we all have life experiences from which we have learned some very valuable lessons and it pains us to see others make the same mistakes that we did. We want to help people in our life avoid certain pitfalls. We must allow the other person to make their decision even if it goes against what we believe is best for them.

The key is that once we share our wisdom we must let it be...Even if it goes directly against our lesson and the advices we have given. We must simply let go. We may offer to share the lessons of our journey in order to help pave a smoother path for others. When presented in a way that comes across as loving and non-judgmental this can be very valuable to everyone involved.

"No matter how clearly we believe we see the situation, no matter how right we believe we are, we never know – we might be wrong".

SPRING is in the Air~Embracing the Seasons of Life....

Spring is the season in our life of new growth. It is the period of our lives where we clear out the old to make way for the new. It is a time where we create new beginnings for ourselves and our lives.

Hey! I wish you guys are all having an awesome spring break!!!Spring is such a beautiful season, it’s a season of newness and a refreshing start. We can finally keep all the old and thick coats of Winter (specially the previous one we had when its 30 degrees in florida.lol) and welcome the warmth, revitalizing and newness of Spring. Many of us get an extra spring in our step and a bigger smile on our face as the colorful and aromatic flower blooms, the bird sings and the earth warms in climate.

With our hopes and changing moods elevated by the promise of spring and all that it brings to us, this is a great time to understand and embrace the changes that we want to make in our life.
There is a saying that all good things come to an end, derived from the saying that all things must come to an end.

It is true. As I’ve said in my previous blog, The only constant in life is change. We are always in the course and journey of endless change. We go through the different phases in our lives, just like the four seasons: Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall.

Although Im not going to emphasize much about the details, but more about the fact that every one of us goes through a numerous amount of different phases in their lives. The end of each phase and the beginning of the next one is usually a big change, and sometimes one that is very difficult to deal with, or hard to just let go.

Every aspect in our lives has a start and it has a finish. Each section that passes is one that will never come back. We will be just wasting our time and effort thinking of the things we cannot change. What we should do is to accept the things that is out of our control, embrace our present situation, and welcome the possibility of an amazing adventure ahead.

It all begins within us! Each of us have the ability to make a difference and make this world a better place. It is our choice to create an atmosphere of harmony, peace and love with our thoughts and actions.

Where ever you are, I encourage you to feel free today, step outside and be thankful that the sun is shining and close your eyes, feel the warmth, listen to the birds singing, reflect in the joy of the season, use your gift of senses and appreciate the beauty of the nature around you. Feel the love and peace that is within you and send your love and peace out to the whole world.

Embrace this season of change!

(The following is an inspirational poem from: http://www.janiep.com/seasons.html)

The changing seasons often remind me of life.

In spring we see a reawakening. Trees that were dormant now burst forthwith vigorous new growth. They cover their branches withleaves to shelter us from the summer sun. Birds flit aboutgathering twigs and strings to build nests for their new families. Flowers proudly display their colors in gloriousarray.

The summer sun brings warmth to body and soul, but it mayalso bring searing heat that parched the heart of the earth. The fury of a summer storm may cause devastation on one hand but relief from a drought on the other.

Autumn dresses herself in her finest colors as if reluctant to let go of life before the cold of winter begins. She lingers long enough for the migratory birds to begin their journey south,and for hibernating animals to find a place to spend the winter.

Then winter spreads her snowy blanket. But the earth is nottotally devoid of color. The firs, pines, holly, and ivy remind us that not all is dead.

A life that can endure the storms, wait patiently for the winter to pass, and enjoy the beauty and goodness of life, is truly blessed.I hope that something in these pages will bring comfort, peace,or encouragement to someone. I've known times of sorrow and heartache, as each of us has in various ways. But I've also known times of joy and thankfulness.

"With Pain and Suffering:Comes Healing"

"To Heal from the Inside Out is the key". -Wynonna Judd

This morning as I was preparing my breakfast. I was slicing some bread, I accidentally slipped and cut my finger with the bread knife. I quickly ran it with the tap water, cleaned the cut and placed a band aid on it and then continued getting the food ready for breakfast.

I didn’t even give the cut another look and guess what? the cut began to heal. I did not have to do anything, but my immune system took over right away with repairing my wound and I know that in a few days that cut will be completely healed and I probably won’t even remember that it happened.

That is how our body works, we have an immune system which is our natural capability to repair and heal us when we have any wounds or illness. I could choose to be curious of the cut, by reopening and messing with it which would interrupt my inborn ability to heal and even cause serious infections and totally regret it. I could choose to keep WORRYING about it.

So some of you might be giving some side comments already. I know, this is totally insane right? Why would I keep exposing my wound where it could not heal? Why would I create suffering for myself?

Although most people would never attempt to intentionally create a situation where they would suffer or cause more damage to themselves. One would think, however we do create suffering in our mind with our thoughts. We torture ourselves by overthinking and worrying about it. And many people do it as a normal course of their day.

In this life alot of shit happens.(Sorry) And mostly, we find out that things don’t always go the way we want it to be, even if we’ve carefully planned it. Alot of times, we feel so unworthy, people lose their job, we never had enough money to buy something that we really wanted (unless you’re a celebrity or whatever), the people we love tells us that they want to break up after a long term relationship or found somebody else, we have been diagnosed and discovered that we have cancer or any disease that will greatly affect our lives and our family. We do our best in school, yet we always end up like a failure.

These only are some hurtful and painful events that happen in our life that causes EMOTIONAL WOUNDS. But I’d say, Emotional wounds needs healing too, just like our physical wounds EXCEPT the course of healing our emotional wounds is all under our CONSCIOUS LEVEL. Its based up to us and what we say to ourselves when so many bad things happen. And how we COPE with Life’s inevitable problems.

What will we choose: To continually suffer or choose to heal? Will we take that leap of faith and the first step to coping with life’s circumstances or not. Will keep re-opening the wound to the point where it can’t heal and get infected? Will we be proud of our suffering, cry and ask for help yet deny to help ourselves? Will we get to a point where we are defined by our suffering?

The world is full of suffering; it is also full of overcoming it.- Helen Keller:

We all experience pain and getting hurt, and I believe that we will all be vulnerable to it. I don’t know anyone who never been hurt emotionally or not known some form of emotional pain heal.

The difference though is how we cope from within ourselves about the wounds that’s we are going to through.

I ask you today to reflect on whatever suffering that you may be going through right now and to Ask yourself how you could change the way you can stop worrying, and help yourself create the healing of your wounds and to eliminate the suffering.

You have the gift to heal yourself. Healing is a process. There are no magic bullets or potions which will heal your wounds at this very moment.

Its all about TIME. The good thing however, is that we can make a decision to end the suffering and begin the healing by changing your inner perspectives in life.

Stop worrying and Start Healing.

“Worrying is the same thing as banging your head against the wall. It only feels good when you stop” -John Powers

Resiliency Model: A New Way to Save the Lives of Young People

I believe that the myriad of problems facing the youth today can come from different perspectives. For starters there is the issue of drugs that are becoming more and more readily available to young people. Children are getting involved in drugs (illegal) as young as middle school. The rate of teenage pregnancies, drunk driving, joining gangs, is no doubt-enormously high. Oh, Let's not forget the irresponsible parents doing drugs in front of their children pretending that it's no big deal.

To be part of the "in crowd" is a highly coveted social position for today's youth. It is a position that many of them would give up their morals and even their health for.

These "Societal problems of youth" have been a long time concern not only of our criminal justice system but also among several bodies of research from different fields.

As a psychologist major i've decided to focused on what my field is doing in action to help solve the problems of the Young Generation.

The long standing question for psychologist is to try to figure out what was wrong with their patients, and try to help people deal with their problems. About 10 years ago, things began to shift. Instead of asking the question: What DAMAGES people? Some psychologist focused on what makes people STRONG.

Most of the studies have been done on young people. And most of this shows that 1/3 of the kids who lived under difficult circumstance sexual abuse, alcoholic parents’ poverty and that kind of thing, a full third of these kids do fine. They did NOT get caught up with crime or drug, they don’t become pregnant in their teens, and they lived responsible lives and become responsible The resiliency literature provides counselors with a more effadults.

The question is WHY? What factors either internal or external worked for this teens? and most importantly could researchers identify these factors that apply not just to young people, but to all kinds of people facing the hardships of life and give them the ability to “Bounce back”

This was the start of a new and interesting field-RESILIENCY.

Resiliency is the ability to spring back from and successfully adapt to adversity. An increasing body of research from the fields of psychology, psychiatry, and sociology is showing that most people, including young people–can bounce back from risks, stress, crises, and trauma and experience life success.

ective and personally satisfying way to work with and relate to their clients. There are basically six protective conditions associated with resiliency (caring and support, high expectations, meaningful opportunities for involvement, pro-social bonding, clear and consistent boundaries, and "life skills") into counseling relationships so as to encourage the growth of resiliency in. The power of the protective conditions mentioned above is the Heart of this Model.

There is a robust body of research literature in the counseling and therapy fields supporting the importance of "therapist factors" (level of empathy, view of client, etc.) and the therapeutic relationship in promoting positive change.

Counselors need to know about protective factors, and the power of a diagnostic approach that focuses on a more complete picture of the people they counsel. With this knowledge, they can look for individual strengths and environmental protective conditions, nurture them, and try to facilitate their growth in the lives of their clients.

I agree with the wisdom of Dennis Salleebey, D.S.W., who writes in The Strengths Perspective in Social Work Practice (Longman, 1997):

"People are more motivated to change when their strengths are supported," People I have interviewed who have left gangs, recovered from alcohol and other drug addiction, made it successfully through college despite a childhood of abuse, or overcome other significant traumas have told me the same thing. "The people who helped me the most were the ones who told me ‘what is right with you is more powerful than anything that is wrong with you,'" a young man who successfully completed college despite a childhood of living in one foster home after another told me (Henderson, 1991).

This Model of Resiliency training and counseling has indeed helped alot of young people. As evidenced by the life changing experience that brought a new start of hope for the future generation.

(Ive attached two testimonials of successful stories of youth from the Resiliency in action site )

Leslie Krug: "I've Been In So Much Trouble and I'm Still Here"
Leslie Krug went through ninth grade in a traditional high school three times. A lot of her problems, she said, began in sixth grade when her dad died, which "hurt a lot." Though she was sent to counseling, seventh through ninth grade were years of skipping school, drinking, and using drugs. Her message now: "I've been in so much trouble and I'm still here." Today, at age 16, Leslie is back in school and doing well. She was one of two students selected, in fact, by the school staff of the alternative school she now attends to be featured as a "face of resiliency." She is no longer using drugs, and is contemplating a future as a small business owner.

L.W. Schmick: Overcoming and Challenging the Label "At Risk
When L.W. Schmick was in middle school, he realized he was in a class that "was different" from other kids. By his freshman year in high school, he knew that his classes were for "at risk" students. Though he says he "wasn't ever mad at teachers for seeing that and being aware of that," he thinks the label was detrimental to himself and his peers. "Putting an 'at risk' student in a separate class just separates them more. And I think that's what a lot of at risk students are trying not to do [--be more separate]. I think they should be blended in more so they are not put in their own little group, " L.W. explained


References: Henderson, N. (1999). Preface. In N. Henderson, B. Benard, N. Sharp-Light (Eds.), Resiliency in action: Practical ideas for overcoming risks and building strengths in youth, families, & communities. San Diego, CA: Resiliency In Action, Inc.

Confession of A Blogger

Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough that we should try again. -Julia Cameron

I have a confession to make...

Forgive me if I might sound a little blunt in this post, but I just wanted to be honest with you.

Iam a perfectionist.

I can’t help it; Perfectionism is something that I have always struggled with. I always try to avoid mediocrity. It’s either full on or not at all. I think this could also be seen as addictive behavior. I do something a lot or I don’t do it at all. I like learning new things, but I prefer to master something I love to do and be good at doing it, rather than learning a new task through “trial and error”.

You can say I’m a coward in a sense-so to speak.

The good news is I’m not perfect. and I will never be.

Blogging in the past few weeks has taught me the BEST LESSON not only through writing but through my personal life…

Everyweek I noticed, I’m overthinking and overanalyzing what topic to write, and every time I’m done writing it, I’m proofreading it several hundred times (I maybe exaggerating). Some posts will capture those inspired moments and lessons I’ve treasured in life. And others will be average or maybe not even. Some might even have grammatical errors or odd phrases (mind you my primary language is not English). Some might be even boring.

But I guess, it’s all part of me. All I can promise here is PURE HONESTY, which I figured will help me so much along the way. I decided to write, and see what comes out. Not as easy as I would like, but better than I ever have in the past.

I never thought that it would make such an impact in my life and towards self improvement. What’s even more comforting to know is that as I express my views and experiences, I am also learning in the process.

I’ve transformed from a Perfectionist to a Healthy striver.

My message here is to inspire, but it is also based on being realistic. This makes being a perfectionist such a vague and idiotic idea: Achieving the impossible. And, I don’t mean this in the emotional, touchy, Dream Big and Reach for the Stars type of impossible. What I mean is that this is continuously self defeating because you constantly can’t live up to your own unreal expectations type of impossible.

Answer.com dictionary defined perfectionism as a propensity for being displeased with anything that is not perfect or does not meet extremely high standards That’s a risky way to live. You are rarely satisfied, and then more often than not unhappy. Which leads to a lot of failure, discontentment, and hopelessness.

I need to constantly remind myself that it’s okay to screw up, or make a move even if its not the right move. Perfectionism is pathetic. it’s all fear based. It’s a cowardly way to exist.

The only way I know to resist this is to doing it wrong. A lot. The more mistakes I make, the easier it is to realize it’s not the end of the world. I’m not even going to proofread this article. Okay, maybe I’ll proofread it twice or three times, but just not the usual 30 times.Lol

It is such a humble and life changing experience.

So tell me, how about you…Do you any confession to share?

So Your Life Sucks?

I was feeling kind of “BLAH” for the past week after all the hassle and bustle of the toxic exams. So yesterday, I decided to treat myself with some delicious chick-fil-A (Didn’t mean to endorse though, but it’s really good). And it’s been a while since I last had one…

Inside the fast food house, a seemingly exhausted public truck driver entered the door, which caught my attention. He was a big guy, with his forehead and face frowned, playing with his keys and a stick of cigarette, he went immediately in front of the line adjacent to my table.

While waiting for his order, he says in a moderately-sarcastic toned voice: “Eat, drive, eat… then drive again! OH THIS LIFE SUCKS!!!

The food almost burst out from my mouth. I could not help myself to smile and utterly nod on what I’ve just heard. I was thinking at the back of my head; “Poor driver, this man definitely needs a break”.

But on my way home, as the ambiance of lights we’re flashing from the road of 301, and silence taking place. His words suddenly lingered in my head once more…..

I realized that there is truth beyond the humor of his complaining statement.

Many times we feel Fed up with life and we are all trapped.Sometimes we feel we are stuck being who we are. We struggle to change ourselves, but the result has so little effect. We can change what we do, but sometimes we cannot change who we are.

Or think about just how we live every day,

It’s basically the “same old same” isn’t it? You wake up in the morning, eat, school, work, some other things then sleep. And the next day will repeat the same thing all over again. Although this cycle is actually for those “fortunate people”. Others have a routine that’s “purely labor” day and night and a little or no sleep at all. Just like the truck driver I’ve mentioned earlier.

Worse, is when we feel sick and tired of this “rat race”. You struggle with all these problems year after year, and you're getting nowhere, and you wonder if anything will ever change. And the unavoidable reality of it all is that, for you, Life sucks.

The point I want to make is that if you think you’re stuck in this cycle forever, and that your life is not changing, Well you got it all wrong.

The only constant in life is CHANGE. It’s true that our lives are one big cycle with a beginning and endpoint. We are on the journey of endless change. Or what we called the journey of life.
Life is one huge roller coaster with many ups, downs, hoops and loops.

The ups of life, which are those moments of peak happiness, are great and amazing moments. They come inevitably or unexpected and can rarely be forced. I’ve had some days and moments of peak happiness where I can say were the best and unforgettable moments of my life.

On the flipside I’ve also had moments where I felt extremely exhausted bad and just wished the ground would open up underneath me and swallow me up. Those are the downs of life and they also come inevitable and unexpectedly out of the blue.

Take the analogy of life being a journey in an off road vehicle. You don’t know where you are going but you head off in a direction and keep going. Sometimes the road will be perfectly smooth and visible, other times there will be bumps and humps along the road, and you hardly see anything. There will be times when you have a dead-end and need to reverse because otherwise you will drive off a cliff and cause accident. Like wise, according to an inspiring quotation written by Bob Moawd he states that:

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your
own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift
is yours it is an amazing journey and you alone are responsible for
the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.

Sometimes you will make huge progress in short period of time and sometimes youwill take ages to achieve what very little simple things that matter. Don’t get frustrated when you don’t make progress or when the ride is bumpy and rough, it’s all part of the journey. Embrace it with acceptance and keep moving on.

We are all human and it is good to feel for something we care about.-OUR OWN LIVES.

But, what we don’t realize is that-LIFE IS ALL ABOUT YOU, and how you treat it.

If you criticize it, you are actually criticizing yourself. You like it, you hate it? Well it’s all up to you.

So be careful how you describe it.

Am I Really Weird???

So some of you might be wondering why I am asking this…. Well, the word “weird” and “loser” are the words that I’ve often heard over and over again from some of my friends and even family members for reading a lot self-help books and making the effort to improve. I have gone through this and endure this kind of criticism for years in my life.

There are many people who have this stereotype against productivity/self improvement. They think that if you are not born with the skill or talent, and if you need to study and read books is that you are either a.) Don’t have a social life b.) Have a deep emotional /psychotic problem that you need to vent out that’s why you read this crap of self improvement books or c.) You just have nothing better to do. Honestly, I haven’t heard anything more absurd. Sadly, the people who say this often end up needing the most self improvement.

When you make the decision to improve at something, and start putting in the effort and work to get better, you will most likely endure a lot of criticisms or even degrading insults from others attempting to sabotage your desire to improve.

Let me share an experience with you. Well unfortunately, I was born fatherless, my dad abandoned us and my mother was forced to work abroad and left us (my brothers and I) to my aunt’s house to take care of us for 4 years. My aunt has 2 daughters and we are all going on the same private school and same grade level.

Then One day, our school held a quiz competition and the school will carefully pick students who will represent the school and compete for the regional quiz bee. Well one my cousins and I were one of the students who were chosen. This aunt of mine always tries to boast about her daughter and she was overly confident that her daughter was the smart one, but then I on the other hand have always been the shy and meek type of girl (which I admit, until now I still am sometimes). I was even labeled the “Pushover”. But I don’t really care much, although it hurts at a very young age to hear those words coming from my own aunt. Sometimes, I even thought she has a “mental disorder” (sorry), coz she seems to be fanatic by her own talented/pretty daughter, (it’s a little funny though). But still, I continued to study hard for the coming regional school quiz bee competition. I was thinking, alright maybe I wasn’t born with the talent but I can work hard for this.

Anyway fast forward, I did got the first place of that regional overall quiz bee competition. Although sadly, I have no parents by my side, but still I felt happy and realized that it’s not really about having the “skill’ but rather having the passion to improve regardless of the criticisms you hear from other people.

But that was years ago, now my aunt and I have a good relationship, as well as with my cousin. So it’s all good and refreshing. Anyway going back to my point…

None of us are a master at something from the day we are born. Some of us have natural or inborn talent, but we all make mistakes and we all need to improve ourselves to some extent to get better in life. You cannot look at someone who is highly successful and say “Aww, he was born with that talent”. Personally, I've observed that the successful people often don’t have much inborn talent, but they have a passion and desire to succeed at what they do regardless of anything, and they read every book they can get their hands on to be productive.

One of the important things about self-improvement is to get a well-defined sense of identity. To realized that you make life-defining choices and stand by your decisions. This means you can evaluate someone’s comment for logical arguments against your decision and see if you are right, and it means that you do not let other people influence you to an enormous degree. But rather it creates a bridge of understanding to others and to yourself.

I am far from perfect and don’t claim to have much wisdom. My posts are mostly about my experiences and observations about life, and I hope that you enjoy them and even learn from them.

It has taken me time to discover what I love doing, but with every day I am learning more and more…

Now I thought, “Hmm…Maybe I’m not really weird after all. Maybe I just wanted to make a difference”.

If you have comments, critique, suggestions.

I would love to hear from you!

Oh yeah, I’d like to also share this link with you, that I’ve been reading lately for the past few weeks. Just reading short random experiences from people, it’s cool and it’s inspiring. Check it out!! http://makesmethink.com/

“Your Worst Enemy”

For years, I’ve been struggling with an enemy. An enemy that I’ve been fighting the greatest battle in my life from the day that I had the conscious mind up to the present, an enemy that I figured every single one of us have. This enemy is what I call…

“The Devil”.

Do you any have an idea of what I’m talking about? Well the devil is the still small voice in the back of your head that's always whispering the words, “You can't.” The worst part is, you know the devil. You may think you hate it, but you actually love it. You let it control you like a robot and you do just about everything it says. Every time there's something you desire for yourself, you consult the devil first, to see if it will say, “You can or can't have that.”

To support this, I have read some works from Steven Press Field who first wrote in his book a few years ago. He said that there is a “resistance”, within every human being that tells you that it will never work, Steven’s theory of resistance is extremely useful because it shed the light on the difficult problem that creates doubts, and fears. It will always force you to think the other way around hindering you from pursuing a greater and a more productive life.

Unfortunately, what you don't realize is that it doesn't know anything about you. It's dumb and an idiot. It's nothing but a bird, repeating back to you anything negative. Anything that makes you hopeless, hurt, and defeated. Sucking up all the potential that you have in order to live the life that you’ve wanted for yourself.
If a person once told you “You'll never accomplish anything,” it was listening; it hoards words like that and repeats them back to you until you’re exhausted. It doesn't know what its saying. It doesn't care.

Listening to this small voice is the ultimate source of why people fail. Now, you might think, how about the successful people do they have it? Well of course they do. Although as a matter of fact I don’t believe there are terms such as “successful” and “unsuccessful” people. What I believe however is that there are two types of people. First, are the people who recognize their potential and “TAKE ACTION” about it, and the people who recognize their potential and then do “NOTHING” about it.

This is the truth of what separates the few who “take action” and succeed, from the masses that stumble, fall and ultimately surrender.

There’s a physiological explanation in the brain to this resistance-your amygdala. The amygdala is located near the brain stem. It’s responsible for anger, revenge, sex, survival and fear. When the amygdala is activated, when it feels threatened, when there’s a sense that people might actually laugh at you, it takes over. It’s the one that leads you to distractions.

And so the resistance kicks in. How does it actually play “the devil”?

The devil finds excuses, it makes tasks either overly complex or oversimplifies that you fail. It uses phrases like, “see, I told you it would never work.” It is also responsible for giving you an even better idea just before you finish this one, that leads you to accomplish nothing… in fact, it will do anything it can to prevent you from “Taking Action”.

This resistance sabotaged my life for so long. It trapped in the 4 corners of a box, that I sometimes lose control of myself. And in the end, I found myself regretful and disappointed, repeatedly saying to myself the line “IF ONLY”. If only I say this, if only I made this decision, If only I do this and that then my life would be much better.

The resistance is powerful, so powerful that all the shortcuts, time savers and focusing tools are powerless. As we are all aware, the web is filled with different techniques, methods and list that offer to help you in your battle to “defeat the devil”. But unfortunately because the content are practical, polite, and calm. .None of them are working for you because you may NOT be serious about actually defeating the resistance.

Its fun to procrastinate and comforting to complain...

Now you know its name. Now you know how it sneaks in under the radar and sounds quite sensible as it undermines your work and compromises your vision.
The challenge then, is that YOU must DEFEAT the enemy. You need to seek and find a purpose SO IMPORTANT that it is worth overcoming your fears. SO IMPORTANT that yes, you are willing to go through all the hoops, have a bloody war if necessary until you defeat it. And WIN.

First Breath....(Blog Prospectus)

To start off, I was really struck with the powerful yet inspiring words pointed out by Kenneth Burke in our book “They say/I say”. He strongly believes that we are social well beings deeply connected to each other. To be a better writer, we should be able to “put ourselves in the shoes of other people” listen, respect and engage in conversations for it will help us to step out of our comfort zones, possibly change our minds and become a better person. And this criterion is what I found in the community that I was planning to join.

Lifehack.org is the community that I’m passionate to be a part of. Well basically now they rebranded it with what is called Stepcase Lifehack, a new stepcase’s flagship brand, religiously providing thousands and thousands of readers on a daily basis with the best personal development, productivity, life organization blogs and article content available both online and offline the web.

I did some research on this community and found out that Lifehack.org had grown far beyond compared to when they started. It is now a Technorati Top 100 with less than 70,000 subscribers. To name some of the blogs included in the top rank I’ve been reading lately were; Ririanproj,The Lazy Way to Success, Slacker Manager, StevePavlina.com, Dumb Little Man, GTD Wannabe,43 Folders, Your Life. Organized and so much more. After honoring my vision of personal productivity at Lifehack.org, I looked to the next piece of the of the bigger picture. I strongly believe the content in Lifehack.org is a great and useful tool to show people tips, practical techniques, as well as different psychological methods and meditations for self improvement focusing on personal productivity, motivation, and self education. The community’s goal is to help people get the most of what life has to offer!

To emphasize on the main essence of this subject, it may be worth going back to a very simple question: "why be productive?"

In support of this, based on The Little Book of Productivity written by Scott Young points out that by becoming aware of the “specific reasons”, you will be naturally motivated to be and stay productive instead of falling into lazy habits and procrastinations. A lot of people have benefited from the experiences of many on this community that have provided the site with their “hacks”. It’s fun, easy to manage and makes life a little easier to handle. Personally, sometimes I get caught in the “receiving comfort zone”, waiting for the next hack to be posted to change my life.

But thinking about the word “life hack” makes me realize that I shouldn’t be consistently stuck-up in this “receiving comfort zone”, which is why I am looking forward about this privilege to give back in this community. My goal as a psychology major passionate in helping people, is to write blogs in a free writing way hoping to share my own personal experiences, true stories of other people that can relate to the situation that everyone of us are somehow facing in reality. I hope to give and develop techniques regarding managing their emotions, to achieve inner balance and physical vitality, enjoy love and intimacy with their family and friends in a greater way, and to experience inner peace of mind and personal growth.

Again, a hack is not an uplifting solution that carefully solves people’s problems. A hack is something fast to get the job done in less time. Desiring to seek for reliability and efficiency is not the true essence of a hack and therefore this is one of the foreseeable issues that I might point out regarding this community. I have actually read a certain blog that’s called the “Anti Hacks” which on the other hand argued that sometimes our problems require more than life hacks, our lives don’t necessarily need optimization but they need to be fundamentally reconfigured. Anti-hacks attempt to find solutions to problems by approaching them at a higher level of thinking.

“A hack is like a journey into uncertainty”.

It’s learning to do something in a way unintended with certain limitations. It’s engaging reality that makes it far from the ideal. Developing a hack is not the most efficient way, but we may eventually see that it is a better way.