Oops... I Might Be Wrong!

Have you ever had the experience in your life wherein you found yourself getting upset over someone else’s decisions?

Well, Honestly I do-Many Times. The reason I would get upset is because the person making the decision was not making the decision that I would have made (which I think is right),or I get annoyed and pissed off when they don’t listen to what I have to say.

When a person would not listen to my “common sense” I get myself worked up over the other person’s lack of desire to listen to what I had to offer. I was convinced that my life experiences were valuable and should be listened to because I could save another person whenever down the road, I foresaw hardship, and hurtful situations that they might face.

I thought I was being selfless. But when I come to think of it, I realize that I was so selfish.

Although with all honesty i can say that in some way i' m simply looking for the person's best interest. However on the other side, i know that im just "minding other person’s business" because I like the feeling of being in control, and enjoyed being right.

One interesting to remember though, is that almost all the time in these circumstances the other person’s decision does not have anything to do with me. In other words, their choices were simply NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

We often make mistakes when we are wrong, but the greatest mistakes are made when we are sure that we are right.

It is sad, but true, that so many relationships, friendships and families are teared apart due to one person assuming that they are right. It is important to know that we don’t know what the experience is like for another person unless we ask them and put ourselves into their shoes. It is dangerous for us to assume that everyone will have the same experience, Because everybody has a story to tell.

See, what is true for one is not always true for another.

Often times we create a barrier in our relationships by not taking the time to appreciate the experience of others. People will ignore our advices and go for their chosen direction. But what we have to realize is that They need to learn the lessons themselves, that there are times we find out that going against our advices was the best decision they could ever made.

I have experienced both situations in my life. I chose not to listen and made the decision that I want, and learned the lesson that they have warned me of. Yet, I have also gone against their advices, that turned out to be a very positive thing for me.

Let’s face it, we all have life experiences from which we have learned some very valuable lessons and it pains us to see others make the same mistakes that we did. We want to help people in our life avoid certain pitfalls. We must allow the other person to make their decision even if it goes against what we believe is best for them.

The key is that once we share our wisdom we must let it be...Even if it goes directly against our lesson and the advices we have given. We must simply let go. We may offer to share the lessons of our journey in order to help pave a smoother path for others. When presented in a way that comes across as loving and non-judgmental this can be very valuable to everyone involved.

"No matter how clearly we believe we see the situation, no matter how right we believe we are, we never know – we might be wrong".