“Hello and Goodbye"...

I hate to say this.

But Life truly is a series of “Hellos and Goodbyes”...

As much as I want to, the time has finally come to an end. I would have to accept the truth that I’m now signing off from writing in my weekly nurtured blog “Rid me of myself”.

Thank you so much to everyone who joined me in my spiritual journey of awareness and detachment. This short period of conscious effort and understanding helped me to express myself, bare my soul and deepest thoughts. Thank you for spending your free time to read my posts, especially to some people whom I noticed not only consistently reading but giving comments, feedback and criticisms.

I am very open to your constructive feedback and I have also learned a lot from those of you who shared their personal experiences through the little box below, it is short, but sweet. So it is greatly appreciated. Our simple exchange of ideas challenged me and helped me grow personally.

So since this will be my last blog post, I would not leave you with just pure drama.lol

But rather, I’d you to ask you something to think about….

“How Do you want to be remembered?”

I’m pretty sure you are familiar with a question similar to this: “What legacy are you going to leave behind?” I have noticed, that there are a lot of people who are concerned about leaving a legacy. But what we don’t realize however is that most of us are soon forgotten. Once we pass on, life simply goes on...

I remember the quotation, I’ve read before which I will never forget:

They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. - Carl W. Buechner

In this Life, It’s the simple and small things that mean a lot to other people. Let’s face it, not all of us were brought here to do something so grand that millions of people will remember us, rather than the people we do meet each and every day are touched by us in how we word things, our feelings and how we go about living our lives. To that one person who may be feeling down or out, your words could make them feel “grand”….it’s like a domino effect…

One of the small things I do is send a birthday card to special people, not just family. Often times, they will call to say that that one little gesture lifted them up and made them happy. I want to leave this earth knowing I made people happy and that I did make a difference in at least a few people’s lives…….

To live our lives by example is the best measure of showing others that we can have peace and we can obtain goals on a day by day basis. To me, the important things is to live in the here and now and make the most of it. Focus on your goals, one day at a time. And be kind to yourself even if you fall short. So what? After all,

Tomorrow is another day, and there are bound to be new opportunities.

Go with the flow without worries or regrets. Time and age are relative anyway. Labels are illusions to be lost.Thus, the important thing is to keep the spirit alive and well and kicking. Every moment you live can be a glorious one, no matter your age or level of income, etc. Some of our most revered figures have lived less than stellar lives.

We know of very attractive people like Elvis Presley, Marilyn Monroe, John Lennon and Michael Jackson and so many others who passed away “under mysterious circumstances.”
Money and fame make the world go round, but the happiest people in the world live in obscure and remote places.

The quality of how you are remembered is the direct effect on what you do during your life and how you impact the people you deal with. If your impact is negative, sad as it seems, I believe you will be remembered that way. If your impact is positive, again I believe you will be remembered that way.

This "Goodbye" is not the end of my journey towards self improvement and productivity. This is just the start of a new adventure. and what is it?

Well i dont know, that is what im going to findout on my own...Im going to let go of the rope for now, and let the winds take me wherever my destination is.

Remember that:

The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.”

-Don Williams Jr

Cheers to your life. Keep on smiling!

Till Then, Im now signing Off..Peace!:)

Oops... I Might Be Wrong!

Have you ever had the experience in your life wherein you found yourself getting upset over someone else’s decisions?

Well, Honestly I do-Many Times. The reason I would get upset is because the person making the decision was not making the decision that I would have made (which I think is right),or I get annoyed and pissed off when they don’t listen to what I have to say.

When a person would not listen to my “common sense” I get myself worked up over the other person’s lack of desire to listen to what I had to offer. I was convinced that my life experiences were valuable and should be listened to because I could save another person whenever down the road, I foresaw hardship, and hurtful situations that they might face.

I thought I was being selfless. But when I come to think of it, I realize that I was so selfish.

Although with all honesty i can say that in some way i' m simply looking for the person's best interest. However on the other side, i know that im just "minding other person’s business" because I like the feeling of being in control, and enjoyed being right.

One interesting to remember though, is that almost all the time in these circumstances the other person’s decision does not have anything to do with me. In other words, their choices were simply NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

We often make mistakes when we are wrong, but the greatest mistakes are made when we are sure that we are right.

It is sad, but true, that so many relationships, friendships and families are teared apart due to one person assuming that they are right. It is important to know that we don’t know what the experience is like for another person unless we ask them and put ourselves into their shoes. It is dangerous for us to assume that everyone will have the same experience, Because everybody has a story to tell.

See, what is true for one is not always true for another.

Often times we create a barrier in our relationships by not taking the time to appreciate the experience of others. People will ignore our advices and go for their chosen direction. But what we have to realize is that They need to learn the lessons themselves, that there are times we find out that going against our advices was the best decision they could ever made.

I have experienced both situations in my life. I chose not to listen and made the decision that I want, and learned the lesson that they have warned me of. Yet, I have also gone against their advices, that turned out to be a very positive thing for me.

Let’s face it, we all have life experiences from which we have learned some very valuable lessons and it pains us to see others make the same mistakes that we did. We want to help people in our life avoid certain pitfalls. We must allow the other person to make their decision even if it goes against what we believe is best for them.

The key is that once we share our wisdom we must let it be...Even if it goes directly against our lesson and the advices we have given. We must simply let go. We may offer to share the lessons of our journey in order to help pave a smoother path for others. When presented in a way that comes across as loving and non-judgmental this can be very valuable to everyone involved.

"No matter how clearly we believe we see the situation, no matter how right we believe we are, we never know – we might be wrong".

SPRING is in the Air~Embracing the Seasons of Life....

Spring is the season in our life of new growth. It is the period of our lives where we clear out the old to make way for the new. It is a time where we create new beginnings for ourselves and our lives.

Hey! I wish you guys are all having an awesome spring break!!!Spring is such a beautiful season, it’s a season of newness and a refreshing start. We can finally keep all the old and thick coats of Winter (specially the previous one we had when its 30 degrees in florida.lol) and welcome the warmth, revitalizing and newness of Spring. Many of us get an extra spring in our step and a bigger smile on our face as the colorful and aromatic flower blooms, the bird sings and the earth warms in climate.

With our hopes and changing moods elevated by the promise of spring and all that it brings to us, this is a great time to understand and embrace the changes that we want to make in our life.
There is a saying that all good things come to an end, derived from the saying that all things must come to an end.

It is true. As I’ve said in my previous blog, The only constant in life is change. We are always in the course and journey of endless change. We go through the different phases in our lives, just like the four seasons: Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall.

Although Im not going to emphasize much about the details, but more about the fact that every one of us goes through a numerous amount of different phases in their lives. The end of each phase and the beginning of the next one is usually a big change, and sometimes one that is very difficult to deal with, or hard to just let go.

Every aspect in our lives has a start and it has a finish. Each section that passes is one that will never come back. We will be just wasting our time and effort thinking of the things we cannot change. What we should do is to accept the things that is out of our control, embrace our present situation, and welcome the possibility of an amazing adventure ahead.

It all begins within us! Each of us have the ability to make a difference and make this world a better place. It is our choice to create an atmosphere of harmony, peace and love with our thoughts and actions.

Where ever you are, I encourage you to feel free today, step outside and be thankful that the sun is shining and close your eyes, feel the warmth, listen to the birds singing, reflect in the joy of the season, use your gift of senses and appreciate the beauty of the nature around you. Feel the love and peace that is within you and send your love and peace out to the whole world.

Embrace this season of change!

(The following is an inspirational poem from: http://www.janiep.com/seasons.html)

The changing seasons often remind me of life.

In spring we see a reawakening. Trees that were dormant now burst forthwith vigorous new growth. They cover their branches withleaves to shelter us from the summer sun. Birds flit aboutgathering twigs and strings to build nests for their new families. Flowers proudly display their colors in gloriousarray.

The summer sun brings warmth to body and soul, but it mayalso bring searing heat that parched the heart of the earth. The fury of a summer storm may cause devastation on one hand but relief from a drought on the other.

Autumn dresses herself in her finest colors as if reluctant to let go of life before the cold of winter begins. She lingers long enough for the migratory birds to begin their journey south,and for hibernating animals to find a place to spend the winter.

Then winter spreads her snowy blanket. But the earth is nottotally devoid of color. The firs, pines, holly, and ivy remind us that not all is dead.

A life that can endure the storms, wait patiently for the winter to pass, and enjoy the beauty and goodness of life, is truly blessed.I hope that something in these pages will bring comfort, peace,or encouragement to someone. I've known times of sorrow and heartache, as each of us has in various ways. But I've also known times of joy and thankfulness.

"With Pain and Suffering:Comes Healing"

"To Heal from the Inside Out is the key". -Wynonna Judd

This morning as I was preparing my breakfast. I was slicing some bread, I accidentally slipped and cut my finger with the bread knife. I quickly ran it with the tap water, cleaned the cut and placed a band aid on it and then continued getting the food ready for breakfast.

I didn’t even give the cut another look and guess what? the cut began to heal. I did not have to do anything, but my immune system took over right away with repairing my wound and I know that in a few days that cut will be completely healed and I probably won’t even remember that it happened.

That is how our body works, we have an immune system which is our natural capability to repair and heal us when we have any wounds or illness. I could choose to be curious of the cut, by reopening and messing with it which would interrupt my inborn ability to heal and even cause serious infections and totally regret it. I could choose to keep WORRYING about it.

So some of you might be giving some side comments already. I know, this is totally insane right? Why would I keep exposing my wound where it could not heal? Why would I create suffering for myself?

Although most people would never attempt to intentionally create a situation where they would suffer or cause more damage to themselves. One would think, however we do create suffering in our mind with our thoughts. We torture ourselves by overthinking and worrying about it. And many people do it as a normal course of their day.

In this life alot of shit happens.(Sorry) And mostly, we find out that things don’t always go the way we want it to be, even if we’ve carefully planned it. Alot of times, we feel so unworthy, people lose their job, we never had enough money to buy something that we really wanted (unless you’re a celebrity or whatever), the people we love tells us that they want to break up after a long term relationship or found somebody else, we have been diagnosed and discovered that we have cancer or any disease that will greatly affect our lives and our family. We do our best in school, yet we always end up like a failure.

These only are some hurtful and painful events that happen in our life that causes EMOTIONAL WOUNDS. But I’d say, Emotional wounds needs healing too, just like our physical wounds EXCEPT the course of healing our emotional wounds is all under our CONSCIOUS LEVEL. Its based up to us and what we say to ourselves when so many bad things happen. And how we COPE with Life’s inevitable problems.

What will we choose: To continually suffer or choose to heal? Will we take that leap of faith and the first step to coping with life’s circumstances or not. Will keep re-opening the wound to the point where it can’t heal and get infected? Will we be proud of our suffering, cry and ask for help yet deny to help ourselves? Will we get to a point where we are defined by our suffering?

The world is full of suffering; it is also full of overcoming it.- Helen Keller:

We all experience pain and getting hurt, and I believe that we will all be vulnerable to it. I don’t know anyone who never been hurt emotionally or not known some form of emotional pain heal.

The difference though is how we cope from within ourselves about the wounds that’s we are going to through.

I ask you today to reflect on whatever suffering that you may be going through right now and to Ask yourself how you could change the way you can stop worrying, and help yourself create the healing of your wounds and to eliminate the suffering.

You have the gift to heal yourself. Healing is a process. There are no magic bullets or potions which will heal your wounds at this very moment.

Its all about TIME. The good thing however, is that we can make a decision to end the suffering and begin the healing by changing your inner perspectives in life.

Stop worrying and Start Healing.

“Worrying is the same thing as banging your head against the wall. It only feels good when you stop” -John Powers